Paradigm Onboarding
For: "I want to install the operating system, not just learn the apps."
The vision in Vision Onboarding is the what. This is the how-to-see. New paradigms usually need to be installed before the vision-level moves make sense.
1. Nonviolent Communication (NVC)
Jacob's NVC onboarding site. NVC is Marshall Rosenberg's communication protocol — see Nonviolent Communication for our internal page.
Why it's first in this cluster: NVC is the single highest-leverage paradigm install in Jacob's view. It changes how you hear what people are saying (every utterance becomes a please or thank you underneath), which dissolves a huge fraction of everyday conflict. It also gives you something rare — the experience of being in the presence of someone (Rosenberg) operating from a much higher consciousness state, in a way you can absorb just by watching videos.
"Learning nonviolent communication way early is like a huge deal. Saves so many problems and gives you superpowers as a mediator for other people."
Jacob has a NVC Video Prize — $1,000 for the best 20-min how-to-learn-NVC video.
2. Open tools as a way of being
One of Jacob's GitHub orgs. The paradigm: tools should be open, composable, and accretive. This isn't "use open-source software" — it's a deeper claim about what kind of relationship with technology produces the kind of culture Jacob wants.
confidence: medium on the editorial framing — Jacob shared the link without a long pitch. The org's contents are the best primary source. Worth poking around.
3. (Implicit) The frameworks themselves
The conversation drops a lot of frameworks fast. Several are worth installing as paradigms in this cluster:
- Stages of Adult Development — Wilber and Kegan. Once installed, you stop misreading higher-stage behavior as malice or naivety.
- Wu Wei Disclosure — once installed, you stop blaming yourself for "willpower" failures and start engineering gradients.
- Ego and Conceptual Thought as Tools — once installed, the question of "who am I" loosens.
- Spirit as Substrate — once installed, several "speculative" things stop seeming impossible.
These are concept pages, not external links. Read them when ready.
After this cluster
Move to Life Upgrade Onboarding — once the operating system is upgraded, the daily practices stop feeling like obligations.